A Painful Facebook Conversation

In Apologetics on June 14, 2011 at 7:34 am

Facebook conversation-

Dan: Mxxxx as you recall Bxxx and I were friends in high school till the drugs took him over; I have always wondered what happened to him.
MXXXXX: I know, SXXXX said he died alone in a Mississippi motel from a drug overdose. SXXXX lost his second wife, CXXXX and BXXX lost his wife, VXXXX to overdose of drugs prior to this. Please pray for the MXXXX family as they continue to deal with the consequences of addiction… I spoke with Mr. MXXXX and could hear the pain in his voice…Birds of a feather….we flew together to brother.

Just remember when some teenager or young adult tells you they aren’t hurting anybody when they get high, (even weed) besides alcohol is just as bad (probably so). After all you did it when you were my age. OK let’s say you’re right I made it and didn’t get messed up by it. What about one of my friends who I got high with, played sports with, ran around with, probably one of my first true friends? He unfortunately went deeper and deeper into the life of getting higher and higher. The last time we were supposed to go hang out at a club in Overton Square (Memphis) he called and said instead of us riding together he would meet me there. When I arrived at Bo jangles, he was in hand cuffs bent over the hood of his car with 2 pounds of pot and some pills Cops everywhere! The next time we see each other (10 years later) he was on a methadone program with his wife who was pregnant (on the same program). Interestingly enough smoking weed (still) after his mother pleaded with me to go see him. Cocaine had rotted his teeth, needle marks in his arm his wife strapping up to inject her methadone in their living room, and I left with tears in my eyes headed home (in a much safer neighborhood), in my business suit, to my 3 children, working and making a decent living wondering how this happened?
First I was supposed to be a Christian setting an example reaching others for the kingdom. As you can tell I failed miserably, and the damage is evident. My friend made his own decisions but where was I in this, enabling or calling for something more Holy from us both. Running form God has consequences that last a lifetime and can cost a life. Looking back it seems to play out with illicit drugs; you end up in one of three places: Locked up-Covered up- Sobered up!
Second the dilemma for those who claim Christ in our young lives we take the criticism of naiveté to heart and flirt with sin or worse flirt with church. Thinking we can handle the beast of temptation we strike out on our own and each step taking us father away from the peace, security and joy of knowing the friendship of Jesus. The fortunate ones are those who thinking better of this behavior don’t venture out, a few make it back barely and then many live lives of pain, torment, addiction, and destruction.
Finally as a parent and now grand-parent start in prayer, stay in prayer and end in prayer! The challenge live a life that is worthy of being called a Christian, not just being thought one. Being a moral person is not being a Christian, the unexamined life is a life not worth living so says Socrates. So if a pagan philosopher can reach this conclusion the real author of truth says:
John 10:10-11 A thief comes only to steal and to kill and to destroy. I have come that they may have life and have it in abundance. “I am the good shepherd. The good shepherd lays down his life for the sheep.

Being called Christian implies repentance, confession and dying to ourselves and allowing Jesus to be ruler and master of lives on a daily basis. Jesus before you call me Lord counts the cost!

Luke 14:26-30 HCSB “If anyone comes to Me and does not hate his own father and mother, wife and children, brothers and sisters–yes, and even his own life–he cannot be My disciple. Whoever does not bear his own cross and come after Me cannot be My disciple. “For which of you, wanting to build a tower, doesn’t first sit down and calculate the cost to see if he has enough to complete it? Otherwise, after he has laid the foundation and cannot finish it, all the onlookers will begin to make fun of him, saying, ‘This man started to build and wasn’t able to finish.’

This described me does it describe you? Count the cost, consider the cross, live the life!

  1. Dxx, Your story can be repeated a myriad of times – ‘Good Christian kids’ from ‘good Christian homes’ conforming to the situation around them which is largely pagan and hedonistic.

    We can all beat ourselves up for being, like Peter, denying the Truth we sold boldly claim to believe. However, the scripture clearly warns – “Do not be misled: “Bad company corrupts good character.”

    You are pointing out multiple failures. But, maybe the first failure is to throw our ‘Christian’ children into a spiritual, moral, fleshly battle that they are not yet equipped to fight, much less stand. It is a testament to God’s grace that He stayed with many of us and returned us to His House, just like the story of the Prodigal son.

    • Thanks Jamie you were the next person after BXX that I considered a friend. I thank God for the people he has allowed me to know and appreciate.

  2. Meant to say ‘we SO boldly claim to believe’….

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