Grace Killers vs. Grace Givers

In Apologetics, Chrisitian, Christ, Christian, Christianity, Prayer, Satan, Saved, Sin, Trinity on June 18, 2009 at 3:53 am

Sticks and stones will hurt my bones but words will never … this is probably one of the top lies we ever have learned and claim when we are hurt the most. Well meaning and well intentioned people can hurt us deeply never realizing the impact of their words. I know I am guilty of speaking directly and bluntly without realizing sometimes too late that I have just wounded someone I care about. Then there are the malicious types who intentionally prey on our vulnerabilities and sensitivities with the intent to inflect hurt on us. Either way the result is the same the walking wounded hurting and battered desperately seeking some word of grace that will refresh their souls. Every day we are surrounded by people, who need to be built up, they have been deceived, life has confused them and we have the ability to refresh them. Maybe we need refreshing ourselves and having someone who speaks words of life to us provides that experience of grace we yearn for. But it can’t stop there we have an awesome incredible opportunity to share God’s grace; through us God will give them hope, and refresh their souls. Expressing love through gracious speaking can be one of the most powerful gifts we share with everyone. Love has never been a noun but a verb, an action we live out in our behavior and speech. Our words we use are a direct reflection of our heart and relationship with God. Let’s look to the scriptures and see what God instructs us concerning our words good and bad:

 (Eph 4:29 HCSB)  No rotten talk should come from your mouth, but only what is good for the building up of someone in need, in order to give grace to those who hear.

 (Eph 4:29 LITV)  Let not any filthy word go out of your mouth, but if any is good to building up in respect to the need, that it may give grace to the ones hearing.

 (Eph 4:29 KJV)  Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers.

 Looking at each word in this scripture and break down it’s meaning:

 Let– Every word I say is a choice I make.

 (Mat 12:33-37HCSB)  “Either make the tree good and its fruit good, or make the tree bad and its fruit bad; for a tree is known by its fruit. Brood of vipers! How can you speak good things when you are evil? For the mouth speaks from the overflow of the heart. A good man produces good things from his storeroom of good, and an evil man produces evil things from his storeroom of evil. I tell you that on the Day of Judgment people will have to account for every careless word they speak. For by your words you will be acquitted, and by your words you will be condemned.”

 No– Is there any excuse acceptable to God for unwholesome words coming out of my mouth? God makes no allowance for His people to speak unkindly toward anyone.

 Corrupt– This word means “rotten, unwholesome, and putrid.” You know the type of language. Corrupt words leave you feeling defiled and disgusted. They suck the life out of you. They have no place in a Christian’s vocabulary. 

 Word– Words hold power. With a word God created the universe. With a word Jesus raised the dead. With a word hopeless people are encouraged. Just as hopes are dashed with the wrong words and people are wounded. James says-

 (Jas 3:8 HCSB)  but no man can tame the tongue. It is a restless evil, full of deadly poison.

 Proceed– Spoken words are directional they flow towards others, washing them in kindness or drowning them in mire.

 Out of our mouth– These are words concern us- the ones coming out of our mouth. If we are worried more about our words and less about what others say, imagine the impact on our relationships.

 (Psa 141:3 HCSB)  LORD, set up a guard for my mouth; keep watch at the door of my lips.

 But– We don’t have to accept that our words will inevitably or accidentally hurt others. There is an alternative.

 Good– Good words are like fresh air to a weary soul. They bring life to the heart and energize the spirit.

 (Pro 12:18 HCSB)  There is one who speaks rashly, like a piercing sword; but the tongue of the wise brings healing.

 Necessary– Everyone needs to be built up and encouraged. Life has a way of knocking us down and sapping our strength. Words of grace are not a luxury but a necessity.

 Edification– This word implies a building up, strengthening, or making better. Words can do much good and hurt so deeply healing or hurting, Grace Killers or Grace Givers.

 So far we have covered the types of words, and its cautions concerning gossip, criticism, and other inappropriate language. But the responsibility we were given is explicitly stated and a tremendous opportunity to be Grace Givers!

 That it may– By implication an action has been done as it speaks in a past tense and it is inferring to the words we speak.

 Minister– Webster says. Properly, a chief servant; hence, an agent appointed to transact or manage business under the authority of another; in which sense, it is a word of very extensive application. A delegate; an ambassador; the representative of a sovereign at a foreign court; usually such as is resident at a foreign court, but not restricted to such, a messenger of God.

Grace unto the hearers– We studied grace in the last lessen but to be a minister of grace and have the ability and power to, give life, to refresh the souls of  others and be an agent of God’s grace. What an incredible, awesome, and frightening thought. Everyday we are surrounded by people who need a word of grace and we are glib, busy overlooking, and ignoring one of the greatest powers of Heaven charged to us! 

 I had to really ask myself: How have I used this awesome power and responded to this incredible responsibility? Sadly to my own disgrace not so good. God’s word has plenty to say regarding this part of our lives. The words we use dramatically affect the quality of the relationships we enjoy.

 Have you ever been blessed with a friend whose words were gifts to your soul?

  1. When you’re in a crisis who do you want to call you?
  2. How often would those who know us say our words are gifts to their souls?

 The word says:

 (Pro 15:1 HCSB)  A gentle answer turns away anger, but a harsh word stirs up wrath.

 (Pro 15:2 HCSB)  The tongue of the wise makes knowledge attractive, but the mouth of fools blurts out foolishness.

 (Pro 15:4 HCSB)  The tongue that heals is a tree of life, but a devious tongue breaks the spirit.

 (Pro 18:21 HCSB)  Life and death are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruit.

 (Pro 25:11 HCSB)  A word spoken at the right time is like golden apples on a silver tray.

 (Pro 25:15b HCSB) … and a gentle tongue can break a bone.

 (Ecc 10:12 HCSB)  The words from the mouth of a wise man are gracious, but the lips of a fool consume him.

 (Col 4:6 HCSB)  Your speech should always be gracious, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how you should answer each person.

 (Gal 6:2 HCSB)  Carry one another’s burdens; in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.

 (Php 2:3-4 HCSB)  Do nothing out of rivalry or conceit, but in humility consider others as more important than yourselves. Everyone should look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others.

 Grace Killers vs. Grace Givers based on the word we see our responsibility and opportunity. God bless and keep you, may his peace infect you, and his blessings surround you.


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